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Fighting, shouting, and battling with your mate can kill off your relationship. Is there any relationship advice you can use to put a stop to this fast?

Of course there is! And it can be put to use quickly and with pleasure. But first, know that arguing and fighting is common and normal in love relationships. Two people with their own needs and perspectives and backgrounds will disagree and fight occasionally, it’s just going to happen.

There is a lot you can learn about fighting “fair,” and turning conflict into caresses, while getting both your needs met in the relationship. But this article will focus on how to stop fighting before it can even erupt. Is there any way to stop battling in a relationship before it even begins?

Many times, yes, there is a way to stop fighting before it begins! One study done on adult couples found:

The more play there is in a relationship, the less fighting there is.

Does that sound obvious or what? The more the two of you play together, the less you will tend to have conflict about all the little things. And the better you will deal with other differences that do arise. It’s almost too simple, isn’t it? When you “play” with your mate, you will be less irritable and less likely to get upset about all the problems that can arise in a relationship.

So if you want to stop fighting in your relationship at the source, you can look at adding more play into your love life. The more you add, the more likely you are to notice the absence of anger and argument between you.

So consider this question if you want to stop conflict at the source: How much do you play with your mate now? What do you both do together that you really enjoy? And, how frequently do you do things together that you both have a good time with?

We play a lot together in the beginning of the relationship. We go to dinner, movies, whatever. There are all sorts of activities we enjoy doing together. But as life goes on, we get caught up in the obligations of job and kids and bills and we can stop playing together and having much fun with our partner. And the less play, the more we see a corresponding rise in arguing and conflict.

When the play goes, we are left with more conflict.

So if you have more fighting and arguing in your love life, you’ve probably stopped playing as much as you used to. To reverse this trend, follow this pleasurable relationship advice: start adding in more play. Schedule more play time together doing some of the things you both enjoy. Just one play night a week can start to change things. Play is quality time. When you have playtime, you’ll likely notice its a powerful way to stop conflict at the source.

It’s a fun way to stop fighting, don’t you think?

One of the most unique gifts for women, especially if its someone who you know who is always cold is to give them a Pajama Warmer.

Whats a Pajama Warmer you ask? Well I wondered the same thing when I came across this unique gift idea. The pajama warmer came to be when the inventor of this ingenious idea had a friend who warmed her pajamas by the woodstove every night before putting them on. He tried it for himself and was hooked.

Thus originated the Pajama Warmer, an attractive temperature controlled electric warming fleece bag that heats pajamas or any other item put inside the bag in 10 to 15 minutes.

The bag has many suggested uses besides just warming pajamas, you are only limited by your imagination ” and the size of the item. Its a gift that very few women have, but every women wants, and its one of the most unique gifts for women that you can give.

You know how your clothes feel when you pull them out of a warm dryer? Well thats how my pajamas felt when I tried out my Pajama Warmer . I loved the feeling of going from chill to thrill when I pulled my warm pajamas and slippers out of the bag to put on.

Giving the unique gift of a Pajama Warmer to the always cold women in your life will ensure that they not only enjoy having warm pajamas to put on before bed, but they can also experience:

*the pleasure of having a warm towel when they get out of a shower

*a warm pair of slippers and robe to slip on when they get out of bed in the morning

*warm socks and lingerie when dressing for the day

*a warm blanket to snuggle up with a book at night

*warm hats, mittens or gloves when going out on a cold day

*warm sachets, creams and lotions for her to put on while enjoying the heightened fragrance

And as creative as women are she is sure to find many more unique ideas for a gift like this.